Keep the room as neat and attractive as it was made for you. If you borrow books or magazines from the family library, treat them with care and respect, and restore them to their shelves or tables. If you take a glass of milk up to bed with you, bring the empty glass down to the kitchen in the morning. In short, cause as little extra work as possible; do what you can without calling attention to it.

the pressing matter of an iron
If, when you're making a week-end visit, you find that some of your clothes need pressing, ask your hostess where and when it would be con­venient for her to let you press them. If there's one maid in the house-permanent or temporary-and her mistress suggests that she might do the pressing for you, be sure it's convenient for her. Usually one helper has so much more than usual to do with a week-end guest in the house that even one simple pressing job may be asking too much.

tips to helpers
In a house where there is a servant or more than one, tips are a prob­lem. First, if it's someone hired to do one party, you don't tip. If it's permanent staff or someone hired for the whole week end, you should tip. Tipping is a horrid, degrading custom which should be stopped entirely, but as long as we continue to allow it, we have to do it where it's necessary and particularly where we want to express our thanks to someone who has been put to extra trouble on our behalf. Most domes­tic servants would far rather have money than a gift. The amount you give depends upon what you can afford and whether you have asked extra favors. You will of course have been careful always to say thank you for any special service done for you by a servant. It's not only natu­ral courtesy and decency, but a great kindness to your hosts. The pleas­ure and kindliness you show, especially to servants, ought not to be the least of the compensations for the extra work you cause as a guest. If one dish or the whole dinner was especially good, don't just tell your hostess; take a moment convenient for the cook to go into the kitchen and pay her your compliments.

may i bring my dog?
If you have a dog you can't bear to board or leave at home for a week end, ask your hosts well in advance whether you may bring him. If the answer is no, or a half-hearted yes, you either leave the dog behind or don't go. Never, under any circumstances, bring your dog unless you know it's all right.